Who is bringin' chivalry back?

I’ve always been taught and raised to be chivalrous in all my actions to females. Of course I often fail at this, but I see the lack of chivalry in this day and age constantly decrease. We often hear about how ‘back in the day’ boys would always negate themselves to a girl or lady and every action they took would mind and respect the dignity of the female. The men ‘back in the day’ would be appalled by the gross lack of this respect that is shown daily in this modern age. Men are frequently self-centered and don’t even think twice about holding that door open for the women. Men keep the same language that they flippantly use around their buddies when they are joined by a girl. Men don’t offer assistance when they see a woman in need of it. We don’t respect them in our conversations about them once they leave. We fail to offer our jacket to them when they are cold and we continue in our uneducated blabbering instead of engaging conversation. We fail to compliment the little things. We call them inappropriate names as if they were our buddies. We let them pay for their own meal and waste their gas instead of ours. It is unheard of for a man these days to pull out a chair for a woman or to open her car door before his own. We are the first to call “shotgun” to claim the best seat in the car while the girl sits in the back. We don’t change discussion when a girls name is being talked about inappropriately. We often fail to make them think that we have their backs. We fail to make them feel special by respecting their dignity and respecting their ‘girlishness’. If Justin Timberlake already brought sexy back then whose to bring chivalry back?


Notice that I used the pronoun ‘we’ throughout the last paragraph. I am a guilty man just as the rest. I often don’t commit these crimes, which is mostly a result of being taught to be chivalrous throughout my life, but I certainly have committed them before. I know it’s demanding and exhaustive but in all actions we men should treat women with the utmost respect. When I would work the register at a local fast-food restaurant I often observed things that just were unthinkable to me. Many times an obvious couple (holding hands and romantically embracing one another in line) would stand up to the register and order. The girl would order first and I would punch in what she wanted and then look back up waiting to see what the guy was going to have and the girls would tell me that was all. I would total the order and since its fast food it obviously didn’t usually exceed more than about three bucks. Then the guy would stand up and begin ordering, catching me completely off guard because I figured that he wasn’t going to be eating since he didn’t order with his girlfriend. Nonetheless I would total his meal and he would pull out his wallet to pay and almost every time I would notice how much money he had with him. It just appalled me how he wouldn’t pay for her meal and how she wouldn’t even expect him to!

Chivalry is the choice of doing the right things at the right time. It is both of these and both are reliant upon the other. I know it’s hard to be chivalrous in a world where woman flaunt their bodies and where they have become so independent on themselves, but that is no reason to abandon the pursuit of chivalry.

Chivalry is not dead, it is just abandoned. Guys, it is up to us to bring chivalry back in a world where ‘sexy’ has already been brought back by Mr. Timberlake.